The first question that I always get from the women is, are you married and how many children do you have? at this point, I realise that I do not fit the usual entry point for connection. This is not a barrier for me. This is not a barrier for them. It is the starting point from which we begin.
The next question that arises - so you are here to find a husband? no, I’m here to work.
At first, I used to hear these questions and feel either sad, or a failure… this is what I felt often at home, it is less discussed… not to your face, people don’t ask to your face… they ask behind your back - so they can place you and your intentions… who are you? what are you doing here?
These questions I ask myself, again and again… I don’t know, but I know I have to do this., I don’t know but I know I have to do this… I don’t know, but I know I have to do this.
Allal’s response when I talk with him about these questions are always met with.
“Don’t think, stop thinking. Get out of your head.”
He is a natural improvisor.